One of the most difficult aspects of the process of ending a relationship with your child’s other parent involves transitioning to a parenting relationship. Yet, in doing so – depending on the ins and outs of your situation – you can help to provide stability for your children.
There are several ways that parents can bolster the likelihood of their new parenting relationship evolving in successful ways. While the following are some common tips that are generally applicable to most parenting situations, adjustments to meet specific circumstances may be necessary.
Focus on the children
One of the most important things for parents to remember is that the focus should be on the children. Generally, it’s best for co-parents to leave the situations that caused the breakup in the past so they can make decisions that are based on what’s best for the children.
Compromise for the children’s best interests
The children’s best interests must remain at the heart of the decisions the parents make. In some cases, this means the parents may have to compromise on matters, such as changes to the parenting time schedule if there are events going on that the children will benefit from. For example, if out-of-town family members come into town, parents should work together so the kids can spend time with them.
Communicate with respect
Respectful communication is critical for those in a parenting relationship. Remaining calm and keeping the children at the heart of the conversations may be beneficial. Neither parent should badmouth the other and any negative discussions should occur away from the children.
Respect the other parent’s time
Parenting time gives the children a chance to build meaningful relationships with their parents. Respecting the other parent’s time and encouraging the children to make the most of the time they have with that parent can help to improve the situation for everyone involved.
Getting a parenting plan in order quickly after a split can make it easier for everyone to adjust to their new way of life. Being able to provide the children with a solid foundation may enable them to thrive despite this major life upheaval.